A couple weeks ago we received the letter from my daughter's school most parents dread...it was a letter stating that next week all 4th and 5th graders will be having a “sex ed” class and watching “the video.” Most kids in 4th, 5th, and 6th grades will have some type of physical development or sexual education course at this time of year. I say most parents dread this because for many parents, they’ve never really talked about physical development with their kids, so it’s a scary topic.
I want to encourage you as a parent, don’t let the school be the only one to talk to your child about this crucial topic. Depending on the educator, schools do a good job at teaching kids “the facts” of what will happen to their bodies, and sex education. There are two significant problems however:
1) Because it’s public school, the education is devoid of morality. It’s very factual, and hopefully correct, but it doesn’t talk about how sexuality is God’s gift, and made to be perfect in His eyes. They typically won’t share that it’s intended to be saved for marriage. Only you as a parent, can add this important piece to what your kids learn about their bodies and sexuality.
2) Kids tend to believe what they hear first. Did you know we’ve had many reports from parents that kids in 3rd, 4th, and 5th grades are talking on the playground about body development, sex, and more (and this before they have the class)! I want to encourage you as parents, talk to your kids BEFORE they hear about it on the playground or bus. Don’t let their friends be the first to tell them about anything, you be the one!
Here is a “Wish List” on Amazon.com that has many Christian books that will aid you in talking to your kids. http://amzn.com/w/31YIABH8SKTUS Buy an age appropriate book or two, and read it with them together. I encourage parents to start in 1st grade with the basic books. Don’t just have “the talk” one time. It should be ongoing. Develop a relationship with your child that is open and honest about this important area of their lives. Let them come to you when questions arise, you will be glad you did! Focus on the Family is another great resource. Here's a link to a recent article on their site: http://tinyurl.com/6t4llnz.
“These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” Deuteronomy 6:6-7
Yours for Kids,
PS Have more questions on this important topic? I encourage you, if you missed it, to check our series "Sex. Love. Marriage. [ does the order matter?]"